Book Review - I Promise to Hate, Despise and Abuse You Until Death do Us Part
by Cheryl Kinnersley on 03/18/11
I was initially drawn to this book for two reasons. First, I know the author and respect and trust him. Secondly, I provide marriage counseling services and have encountered many who have struggled with this issue. Individuals have felt trapped in an abusive relationship and are confused as to what Scripture says about this. Is divorce an option? How can one survive in this kind of relationship? This book provides hope, help, and clarity for those who find themselves in an emotionally abusive marriage as well as for those who counsel them. To order, go to Bookend Publishers, Inc. It is well worth your investment!
Roger P. Linden, MSW, LICSW, BCPCC March 31, 2011
Sonlight Therapeutic Services
Virginia, MN 55792
I purchased the book and received it late last week. I read it in two sittings. That should say something to you! It is a very compelling book highlighting the struggle women find extremely difficult to get out of for all the reasons you share in your book. I was affirmed in my own beliefs about divorce in such a situation as I definitely believe that God does not expect one of His own to be used as a "punching bag" either physically or emotionally. I am also a Board Certified Professional Christian Counselor and was drawn to the book also as I have "tried" to work with men of this disposition. . . . Thus, I have a good collection of writings on this subject and find them all fairly consistent to the degree that they all give a very poor prognosis for the narcissist and concentrate on how the wife and family can -- and needs to -- structure their lives around wholesome interactions with each other and outside the family -- even looking at divorce as an option to be "FREE".
I heartily endorse your book and agree with Cheryl Kinnersley that it is bound to give new hope to women who feel trapped in this kind of negative bond. Thanks to you and Andrea V. Oelger for daring to write such a book from a Christian perspective. I am going to pass it on to my pastor friends.
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